An Open Letter to Those Dealing with Election Stress and Post-Election Emotions

Written By Jasmine Jaquess

For some, Election Day brings celebration and hope, feeling like a positive turn for our country. For others, it stirs a sense of loss or anxiety, especially if they fear changes to things like reproductive rights, taxes, or community representation. My role here isn’t to take a political stance; instead, it’s to help you recognize that whatever your emotions may be—excitement, disappointment, anxiety, or a mix—they are valid.

In therapy, there’s room to process these reactions, whatever side of the coin you’re on. Many people may be going to work today, feeling they have to put on a brave face when their emotions are anything but calm. Others may be celebrating or feeling drained and in need of a break. This blend of responses is normal, and there are ways to manage these feelings that honor both your well-being and your values.

Processing Emotions

Election outcomes can bring up a lot of emotions—anger, joy, sadness, even numbness. Understanding these emotions is an essential first step in processing them. Take a moment to ask yourself, “What am I feeling right now? Where am I feeling it in my body? What might these feelings be telling me?”

Emotions are a form of information. They help us recognize our needs, values, and hopes. Are you feeling disappointed because a core value feels threatened? Are you experiencing excitement because of potential progress? Emotions, especially when tied to significant events, often reveal our deepest beliefs and concerns.

Prioritizing Self-Care

As you navigate the emotional aftermath of an election, try to make self-care a priority. I recognize that, as caretakers, parents, and professionals, it’s not always easy to slow down. But self-care doesn’t have to be elaborate to be effective.

Even small actions can make a big difference, like setting aside an hour each day to recharge or choosing a comforting activity that brings you peace. For some, it might be spending time with family; for others, it might mean booking a massage, journaling, or talking to a therapist. Self-care is personal, so find what soothes you and make space for it.

Dealing with Uncertainty and Anticipatory Anxiety

For many, elections bring an added layer of stress: not knowing what changes may lie ahead. This kind of anticipatory anxiety—worry about future events that may or may not happen—can feel overwhelming. Uncertainty, especially when it’s connected to past traumas or previous election cycles, can amplify fear and create a sense of impending doom.

Here’s where it helps to remind ourselves of what is within our control. Focus on the things you can influence, like your daily routines, self-care habits, and how you choose to spend your time. At the same time, try to let go of what is beyond your control. We can’t predict the future, but we can choose how we respond to the present moment.

Finding Healthy Coping Strategies

If you’re struggling with anxiety or rumination, some practical coping skills can help keep you grounded. Here are a few ideas:

  • Grounding Exercises: The 5-4-3-2-1 technique is a powerful way to center yourself by engaging your senses.

  • Mindfulness Practices: Meditation, deep breathing exercises, or even a morning walk can help calm the mind.

  • Physical Activity: Movement, whether it’s a full workout or a simple stretch, can relieve tension.

  • Journaling: Writing down your thoughts can help you clarify them and see patterns in your feelings.

These strategies encourage you to stay present and reduce the urge to live in the “what ifs” of the future or dwell on past disappointments. Often, the thoughts of “what if this goes wrong?” are cognitive distortions—thoughts that can pull us into worst-case scenarios without concrete evidence.

Seek Supportive Communities

If you’re feeling isolated, reach out to a supportive community that can offer a safe space to share your thoughts. Whether it’s a close-knit group of friends, a church group, or an online forum, connection with like-minded individuals can provide comfort. Having people around who can empathize with your emotions—whether they’re grieving with you or celebrating—creates a foundation of support and validation.

Remember Your Voice Matters

In addition to coping, it’s also important to recognize that your voice matters beyond election day. Participate in local elections, stay informed, and continue to be involved in ways that align with your beliefs. Change doesn’t happen overnight, and taking small actions regularly can help build a sense of agency and purpose.

That said, it’s also vital to strike a balance. Politics, while impactful, doesn’t define every aspect of life. Finding a middle ground—staying informed without letting politics consume your daily life—can contribute to a healthier mindset.

Set Boundaries with Others

Elections can sometimes create tension in relationships, and some may find themselves in conflict with loved ones over political differences. Know that it’s okay to set boundaries with those around you if political conversations are too charged or uncomfortable. You can coexist peacefully with others, even those with differing opinions, by deciding what interactions work best for your mental well-being.

Embrace Self-Compassion

Above all, give yourself grace. It’s okay to feel however you’re feeling. You don’t have to dismiss your emotions or try to fit into a “positive” mold. Whether you’re experiencing grief, anxiety, or joy, these are natural responses to a meaningful event.

Therapy can be a safe place to explore these emotions, find healthy ways to cope, and set goals that prioritize your mental health. Remember, you don’t have to do it alone. If you’re struggling, reach out to a therapist or support group that can walk with you through these feelings.

Begin Therapy in Colorado Springs for a Safe Space to Process

Elections bring a range of emotions, and it’s completely normal to feel affected by them. Understanding your emotions, prioritizing self-care, and staying connected with supportive communities are all valuable steps to help you navigate the days and weeks ahead. I hope this can serve as a reminder that you are not alone, and that with the right tools and support, you can find a place of peace amid the uncertainty.

If you are ready to get support and start achieving your goals, I’d love to help you! To get started with online therapy or in person therapy in Colorado Springs or anywhere in Colorado, follow these simple steps:

  1. Book a free 30-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit!

  2. Fill out your intake paperwork ASAP

  3. Learn about your online therapist, Jasmine MA, LPCC

  4. Start living the life you have always wanted!

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